I would like to thank everyone that has left beautiful and encouraging comments regarding the sad loss of my Mum. I appreciate them all. I am blessed to have such a caring community that visit my little space here.
On the 5th August 2021, we finally laid Mum to rest. Only 50 people were allowed, by invitation only. It was a huge relief to finally be able to do this for Mum. We had a few hiccups with the arrangements but in the end it all worked out well and I think Mum would have been ever so proud of us and what we managed to get done for her funeral.
How am I doing? I have been okay, taking each day as it comes. Somehow trying to find my way back to normality. I have so much to consider now for my Dad. He turns 85 in a couple of weeks. Lucky he is in good health and so far managing to get things done with my help. He is terribly lonely without Mum, he loved her so much. I spent yesterday and last night staying over with him. I cooked up a couple of his favourite meals that Mum used to make for him. He was very happy to have some company.
It is hard to know that my mum is not here anymore to support and encourage me in all that I do. She was my biggest fan. I find comfort in knowing she will walk beside me everyday for the rest of my life.
I finished the blanket Mum had started and it now has pride of place in my little camper van. Its all ready for me to go on adventures when I feel the need, which will come soon I'm sure.
I missed most of Winter with Mum being ill so I am way behind with things around here. Slowly I am making progress with getting garden beds ready for Summer veggies. I took some photos today to share.
I had two grape vines given to me at the end of Summer, but I never did get to put them in the ground, so for now they will stay in pots. This will give me time to decide where to put them. I love seeing new life emerging on plants.
It was wattle day in Australia yesterday, and the wattles were looking so bright and lovely, however after the wind today they aren't so good now.
Excuse some of the blur on my photos, I think my camera is playing up.
The pigeon peas are flowering. I am surprised they are still doing okay with the frosts we had this year. I imagine they will really take off now the weather is warming.
The saltbush I planted along the tin on the veggie patch enclosure has almost covered it. This will keep the patch cooler in summer. I must get to and neaten the plants up a bit.
Fig tree leaves making an appearance.
Still plenty of oranges to pick. They are so nice and sweet now.
There is a mix of beetroot, bok choy in this barrel. These were left overs from punnets and I just plonked them in with the last seasons basil that I have yet to cut back.
I grow my own lettuce these days. I grew these from seed with great success.
The re-emergence of chives.
And garlic chives.
The last couple of leeks I grew went to seed.
So did the spring onions.
I have started a couple of new lemon scented geraniums for the garden.
One last capsicum on the old plants from last Summer. These will be replaced with fresh plants soon.
Silver beet is still growing, although a lot slower this time of year. Will also plant more of these.
The parsley has been trimmed and dried and now in the pantry to use.
I love the pretty orange of this calendula. I have some soaking in oil to make into balm.
I also trimmed the thyme and dried for the pantry.
Hoping the lemon balm does better this year.
Mustard greens flower.
Oregano showing signs of spring.
The sage has been cut back and starting to re-shoot with fresh leaves.
I think this soil needs improving, will get to that soon too. Looks to be lacking nitrogen by the yellow leaves on the baby spinach.
I harvested beetroot a while ago and managed to pickle them. I put new plants in straight away and thankfully they are doing okay. I had to battle with slater beetles eating the young seedlings, hence the bottles. Now the bottles are keeping the black birds from scratching the young plants out. I had a thought and sprinkled basil leaves around the seedlings hoping the slaters didn't like the smell. Not sure of the outcome but will try it again next time.
Hopeful signs of comfrey.
Chamomile flowers are so pretty.
Hello again to the pomegranate. I did get flowers last year but no fruit. Fingers crossed it will happen this time.
Rhubarb.
Baby spinach.
Here is a bed that I renewed recently and planted cucumbers straight in. They are looking rather healthy already. They look dry, but that is from the wind today drying the top of the soil out.
I repotted the raspberry at the end of last summer, and am so pleased to see new growth.
Pink flowering rosemary.
I was given these garlic bulbs from a friend. They are huge garlic so hoping I can harvest some later in the year.
This bed is waiting for some attention.
These girls roam around everywhere, even where they are not supposed to be. Must get to weeding and feeding the lawn area too. So many jobs, so little time...
I spied this tiny tomato plant among the garlic.
Time to weed the garlic again.
Yellow calendula.
The lemon tree I grow successfully in a pot. This always has lots of fruit on it. Now the bees are around the fruit has increased tenfold.
Pretty succulent in flower.More bees. We have nine hives now, seven here at our place and two elsewhere.
Glad you were finally able to farewell your Mum. Gosh your garden is going great with lots of produce and the lettuce looks great. I'm planting some veggies today. Have a good week.
ReplyDeleteThank you Kathy, hope you are having some lovely spring weather for planting.
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Tania, so sorry to read about your Mum. Big hugs from Queensland. My my, you do have a lot of plants growing at the moment.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Nanna Chel. It is not until I do a blog post do I realise that you are right and that I do have a lot of plants growing. And I missed taking photos of some of them.
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I'm so glad to 'see' you again. Your fruit and veg looks wonderful. Gardens are a real solace and a calming place to escape to in stressful times. Take care. X
ReplyDeleteThank you Tracy. Hopefully I am back for a good while now. Gardens are definitely a good place to hang out when the chips are low.
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You look very prepared. Your garden is amazing! We are on watering restrictions again, so I hope I will still be able to grow food. I saved the bath water from last night to reuse in the garden. Love that blanket and photo of your mum. She looks so happy. Her spirit lives on, through you.
ReplyDeleteFor you to be on water restrictions, have you not had rain there Stephenie?
DeleteMy Mum was known for her big smile and beautiful heart. What she lacked in size, she made up for in her determination and resilience.
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My deepest condolences on your mom's passing. We're never really ready for such things.
ReplyDeleteThank you Gorges.
DeleteI know I wasn't ready, but would I have ever been? No. I loved my mother dearly, she was my best friend and confidant. I am an only daughter with a brother that lives a long way away and I very rarely hear from him. Lucky I have four children that I am close to and they will help my dad and I get through this.
Take care,
xTania
Welcome back we have missed you
ReplyDeleteYes the world is crazy right now but I’m sure we will get through it
At least we can grow and cook from scratch not to mention crafting
It all helps to ground us and keep us sane as well as providing for our families
I hope your daughter stays safe and well
Thank you Angela.
DeleteYour are right about the skills we have to get us through these tough times. Hopefully life will return to normal as soon as possible.
I am worried for my daughter in Sydney. She works from home and only goes out to exercise, so all good so far.
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Hi there Tania, it seems I've missed a lot in my hiatus. But I did have your mum in my thoughts, hoping things were going well for her. In a way, I suppose they were. Because she got to decide how she spent her life to the end. Unless he already has one, I was wondering if your dad could use a companion pet to help make the transition. My mum's elderly friend, who lived past 95, had a pet cockatiel. He had no surviving family, but having that little bird to speak to during the day, put a smile on his face. When he eventually passed, my mum made sure his beloved birdie found a new home, with a new girlfriend.
ReplyDeleteDeath is a hard place to navigate. The spaces left behind, that somehow need refilling. I feel for you and your dad right now, having lost David's mum, almost a year ago (late October) too. The garden is a good place to be. Yours is doing very well, and it's great to see. Thanks for sharing it with us, once more. Take care and God bless.
Hi Chris,
DeleteThank you for your welcome advice. I am where you mention "the spaces left behind". As a family we had lunch out for fathers day last weekend and it just wasn't the same. Dad also felt the feeling of somebody missing and struggled through the day. I am trying my best to fill Mum's shoes but they are huge shoes to fill! Tomorrow we are having a bbq lunch for dads 85th birthday. I have baked him a cake and organised food so all that needs to be done is cook the bbq. Sadly there will be an empty space again.
I am mostly doing okay apart from an overwhelming sadness. I am finding it hard to enjoy life at the moment. Other things happening in the world definitely aren't helping.
I will get there...
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Tania it is good to see you back here. I am loving your wonderful garden. I know the work that you put into it and it is good to see how it is responding to your care. Hang in there dear lady. Thinking of you and sending you love from our part of the world.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your encouragement Jane xxx
DeleteSuch a great post Tania !! and lovely to hear an update from you after such a difficult and sad year. Your garden is looking so great. I also feel the need to try and grow as much as possible. I used to be an avid vege gardener...but over the last 5 years I did less and less. However it's like my joy for growing vegetables has returned and I just can't wait to get in there. I only have a few things planted, but have ordered seeds and seedlings. I also loved all your compost tips and want to try your method!! thank you. and finally... I'm very impressed with your citrus trees - so lush, green and so much fruit !. Ours are looking terrible, with yellowed leaves :( My husband put some citrus food around, but I think they need more than that. Blessings to you Tania, I had so much fun reading this and your photos are just lovely too :)
ReplyDeleteHi Linda, so lovely to hear from you again.
DeleteMy citrus trees would have to be the most neglected trees. I don't care for them much, just add water about once a week. Every now and then I remember to fertilise but it is not very consistent.
Good luck with your gardening, you are very talented and I am sure you will have great success!
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Oh, my dear, looking after someone you love when they are very ill is so hard, and it is such an honour to do it for them, but emotionally it really stretches you. I hope you have a gentle landing during spring, and knowing your mum is always with you. Love to you as you find your way forward.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Jo. It really is a struggle and I think reality is starting to sink in. I am missing Mum terribly now and my mind constantly wanders back to the hospital when I was caring for her. Its times like this I wish I had sisters for support. Its so hard to be strong for Dad and try and look after myself also. I will get there with time...
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